Change Is Hard…But Sometimes it Can Be Good

I believe this.  I’ve experienced it.  I try to counsel others with this.  In the midst of uncertainty and change, it isn’t unreasonable to look for positive things.

Our congregation wasn’t able to host the Seder meal that we love to do.  Throughout our life together (and our lives before we were together) the Seder was something that was a large scale event.  Forty or so people at our campus ministry in Arizona was a big challenge.  Seventy to one hundred people at our current congregation over the past few years was a big challenge.  Not having it this year was hard for us, a change we weren’t really enthused about but one which we needed to come to grips with.  It was interesting that it was our kids (and particularly our daughter) who were most vocal about their disappointment.

That disappointment didn’t entirely disappear when we decided to host the Seder at home for the first time ever together.  Our kids were used to it on a larger scale, as were we.  Yet the Seder is supposed to be celebrated in the home.  Supposed to be a family affair rather than a large-scale community event.  What would it be like if it was just our family?  Would the change be all right?

Our current exchange student wanted to join in.  Then two home-school families indicated they were interested in coming.  It wasn’t a massive affair, but it was more than just our immediate family as well.  We planned it all out so that we could have the food ready to serve at the right time, and so that we’d be able to at least get a fair way through the Seder before I’d have to leave to run up to church to lead Maunday Thursday worship.  We tweaked a few things (cilantro as the bitter herb?  Sure, why not?!  New recipe for the haroset?  Sure, why not?!).  We set up shop on our back patio so we’d have enough room for everyone.

It was different.  But it was also awesome.  Cilantro worked well.  We decided our original haroset recipe was better than the new one.  Lamb tips and home-made mashed potatoes and unleavened bread were hits.  Everyone enjoyed themselves, and the dynamic was completely different than the larger scale events.  More intimate.  Quieter.  Less stressful.

Perhaps we’ll do the Seder on a larger scale again someday.  But it’s good to know that this is a great alternative as well.  If you’re interested in doing one in your home next year, let me know and I can set you up with resources and advice.  It might be different for you, but sometimes change is good.  Even if the photos aren’t all that great :-)


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