Making a Mess of Things

The more we attempt to abstract cause and effect relationships from one another, the messier things get.  

As evidence, consider this interesting news report.  There are so many abstractions here that it’s somewhat dizzying.  
We have a same-sex couple (illegal in terms of marriage in Kansas), who are raising eight (8) adopted children between the ages of three and 25.  They’re attempting to live as a married couple in terms of their relationship to one another and the desire to raise children.  Except that it isn’t legal to do so there, and by pretending to do so, they throw the lives of these eight children into turmoil legally when the couple decides to separate.
We have this guy who donates sperm so that the couple can have a child.  The article implies that there is no further relationship than that.  It would be weird enough if this was a friend of one or both of the women, someone that they knew and trusted, someone that knew and trusted them.  That would be bizarre enough.  But the article implies this isn’t the case.  They guy just responded to a Craigslist ad.  No mention is made of whether or not the guy was compensated for his part, but they devised an arrangement intended to shield him from any legal links to the child.  Even though it is his child, they’re going to pretend that it isn’t.
It hurts my head.  I particularly find the comment towards the end of the article rather ironic.  One of the women states “I feel like the state of Kansas has made a mess out of this situation.”  Really?  Really it’s the state of Kansas’ fault?  Despite laws dictating marital relationships (which you ignored)?  Despite laws governing paternity (which you either ignored or never bothered to investigate)?  Despite the fact that even with eight adopted children, you and your partner decided to separate yet still somehow continue to co-raise?  
It’s a mess all right, but for once, I suspect that it isn’t the state’s fault.

2 Responses to “Making a Mess of Things”

  1. Lois Says:

    I was reminded of this quote:

    “Have you no idea of progress, of development?”
    “I have seen them both in an egg,” said Caspian. “We call it ‘Going Bad’ in Narnia.”

    C.S. Lewis, The Voyage of the Dawn Treader

  2. Paul Nelson Says:

    Ah, Lewis. What a wonderful reminder that progress can be just as much of an idol as anything (or anyone).

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