Goodbyes are Hard

Don’t be dismayed at good byes.  A farewell is necessary before you can meet again.  And meeting again, whether after moments or lifetimes, is certain for those who are friends.

Richard Bach – Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah

The theology in this quote is awful.  But it was an influential book at an awkward age of my life.   Worth a look through if you have the time – it’s short.

There is something to be said for how a Christian approaches good byes.  As hard as they are, they are also reminders that we will be meeting again – and it blessedly has nothing to do with whether we are friends are not.  It isn’t reliant on how I feel about somebody else and, thank God, it’s not reliant on how somebody else feels about me.  It’s reliant on God stepping into our shoes and promising that what He accomplishes is good and binding for anyone who will receive it. 

None of us are sure what tomorrow will bring.  Or the next minute.  Life can come and go in the blink of an eye.  We can’t preserve things, we can only enjoy them, appreciate them, and be grateful for them.  Each relationship is special, and part of that specialness lies in the unpredictability.  Where will it go?  How long will it last?  Who will we be down the road because of one another?

It’s natural that good byes are hard and sad.  They are reminders of our brokenness, of the brokenness of a world where good byes are not only necessary, they are inevitable.  What a blessing it is that, as we prepare to say a round of good byes once again, we can take hope and joy in the knowledge that we will once again see these friends, and that someday, no further goodbyes will be necessary.

2 Responses to “Goodbyes are Hard”

  1. Melani Says:

    Yes, saying good bye is hard, but you can continue your friendship other ways these days, weather your near or far, don’t you agree? I plan to keep checking in on your blog, and so send an e-mail (which I need yours and Gena’s personal e-mails) every now and then to say hi and update you on things here. Take care!

  2. Paul Nelson Says:

    It’s amazing all of the ways that people can keep in touch with one another these days.  Hard to believe that not too long ago, you would have to wait weeks or months for a letter from far away.  Now we can actually annoy one another with how connected we are!I haven’t published the information yet, but will be shortly – I just opened up a new blog to chronicle our travels over the next few months.  You can get a sneak peek at!

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